Your Story Matters: How Narrative Therapy Helps You Reclaim Your Voice

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We all carry stories.
Some we’ve told a thousand times.
Some we keep locked up because they feel too heavy or messy to share.
And then there are those silent ones—the ones that quietly shape how we see ourselves without us even realizing it.

I know this because I’ve lived it. We all have.

You Are Not Just Your Past

Here’s something I tell my clients often:
“You are not who others say you are. You are who you choose to be.”

But here’s the tricky part—sometimes the stories we’ve been handed feel like they’re carved into stone:
I’m not enough.
I always fail.
I have to carry everything alone.
I don’t know who I am without this pain.

Those stories feel true, even when they aren’t. They can leave us feeling stuck, unseen, or like life has already decided our ending for us.

So, What Is Narrative Therapy?

Think of it like this: Narrative therapy is about stepping back and asking, “Whose voice is this? Where did this story even come from? And do I still want to keep living by it?”

It’s not about erasing your past or pretending hard things didn’t happen.
It’s about looking at those moments differently—seeing not just pain, but strength, survival, and resilience you may not have noticed before.

Sometimes, you’ve been carrying a story written by someone else—family expectations, cultural norms, past trauma. Narrative therapy invites you to pick up the pen again.

When Life Feels Heavy

This kind of work is powerful when:

  • Relationships feel strained or broken.

  • You’re questioning your identity, faith, or place in the world.

  • You’ve gone through trauma, loss, or a big transition.

  • You feel like your voice has been buried under everything you’ve been carrying.

Narrative therapy doesn’t try to “fix you” because you aren’t broken.
It helps you reclaim your voice and the power to write your own next chapter.

Your Story Is Worth Telling

Because it is.
Even the messy parts.
Even the parts you wish you could rip out and forget.

Your story is proof you’ve lived, you’ve felt, you’ve fought to be here.
And now? Now you get to decide how it moves forward.

Let’s Do This Together

You don’t have to carry it alone.
You don’t have to know exactly what you want to say yet.

We’ll figure it out together. Because your voice matters.
And your story? It’s worth telling.

Reflective Question:
What’s one story you’ve been carrying that doesn’t feel like you anymore?


References

White, M., & Epston, D. (1990). Narrative Means to Therapeutic Ends. Norton.

Angus, L., & McLeod, J. (2004). The Handbook of Narrative and Psychotherapy: Practice, Theory and Research. Sage.

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